- 07 Dec, 2025 *
Every so often, a small idea sticks with you. Not because it’s profound, but because it’s useful. One of those came from Will Guidara’s Unreasonable Hospitality:
"Make the charitable assumption — a reminder to assume the best of people, even when (or perhaps especially when) they weren’t behaving particularly well."
I won’t get into the last few months yet, but they involved the usual mess: shifting plans, people disappearing mid-conversation, a few rejections dressed up a…
- 07 Dec, 2025 *
Every so often, a small idea sticks with you. Not because it’s profound, but because it’s useful. One of those came from Will Guidara’s Unreasonable Hospitality:
"Make the charitable assumption — a reminder to assume the best of people, even when (or perhaps especially when) they weren’t behaving particularly well."
I won’t get into the last few months yet, but they involved the usual mess: shifting plans, people disappearing mid-conversation, a few rejections dressed up as maybes, and some behavior that made no obvious sense. The kind of things that pull you into long, pointless analysis of other people’s motives.
This is where the charitable assumption works like a small piece of survival gear. It’s like a simple override: You probably don’t have all the data. Don’t fill the gaps with fiction. It’s remarkable how much trouble that saves you.
Someone ghosts? They’re probably dealing with something. A plan falls through? Maybe priorities changed. A person reacts in a way you didn’t expect? Maybe their day started badly.
It’s not about being naive or letting people walk over you. If someone shows you a pattern - believe it. Charitable assumptions are for isolated incidents, ambiguous situations, the spaces where you genuinely don’t know what’s going on.
Why this matters
When you assume the worst about people, you carry their imagined offenses around like weights. When you assume the best, you travel lighter. It means recognizing that most people aren’t actively trying to hurt you they’re just trying to survive their own stuff. And in a season where I had plenty of my own stuff to survive, that perspective was everything.
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