factory vanilla chocolate strawberry
- 16 Dec, 2025 *
For as long as I can remember, I’ve always presented a different version of myself depending on the friend group I’m in or the person I’m talking to. I’m sure everyone experiences this to a degree. Especially since we’ve all seen the "using the wrong humor for the wrong friend group" jokes.
People tend to say that you need to be yourself around your friends, but can you really be yourself without judgement if you’ve been switching who you are depending on the group? How deep does this personality shift go? Is …
factory vanilla chocolate strawberry
- 16 Dec, 2025 *
For as long as I can remember, I’ve always presented a different version of myself depending on the friend group I’m in or the person I’m talking to. I’m sure everyone experiences this to a degree. Especially since we’ve all seen the "using the wrong humor for the wrong friend group" jokes.
People tend to say that you need to be yourself around your friends, but can you really be yourself without judgement if you’ve been switching who you are depending on the group? How deep does this personality shift go? Is it just the humor you use or does it also include the morality and ethics you share with these groups?
More often than not, I mirror the way people act. If someone speaking to me has a certain way or vibe of speaking, I throw the same vibe. I’ve come to realize that this is born from a desire to fit in. To conform to what the people want because that’s the only way younger me was able to have friends.
The moment I break through the bubble of conformity, people stare at me and I’m left feeling like a deer in headlights.
Perhaps the solution is to find better friends, but it feels wrong to leave those I’ve known for so long behind when they haven’t done anything wrong. I just simply wasn’t the one they perceived me to be.
Thoughts? Feel free to send them over at falling.und3rneath@gmail.com 🫶