Why Smart People Sometimes Struggle to Trust in Relationships (opens in new tab)

There is a certain kind of person who can explain market volatility, reverse-engineer a political argument, identify manipulation from three rooms away, and still interpret a delayed text message like the opening act of societal collapse. In my work with couples, some life partners are sometimes described as “guarded,” “hypervigilant,” “hard to reassure,” or, occasionally, “emotionally conducting background checks on everyone at all times.” And now we have research suggesting something clinic...