Why John Gottman Threw Maslow Out the Window (And What It Reveals About Love) (opens in new tab)

There is a story John Gottman once told me that I have never forgotten. He was riding a New York subway reading Abraham Maslow, growing increasingly irritated, until — in a burst of exasperation — he threw the book out the train window. “The only book I ever threw out a window,” he told me. Now, one should always be suspicious of stories that arrive already shaped like parables. Still, this one has the smell of truth. Because it captures something larger than an anecdote. It captures a quarre...