Marriage Is No Longer a Commitment: It’s a Continuous Negotiation (And Most Couples Don’t Realize It) (opens in new tab)

Marriage didn’t collapse. It more or less dissolved. Not dramatically. Not with a final fight or a clean ending. More like a quiet software update no one agreed to—but everyone is now running. In my work with couples, I don’t see people abandoning marriage. I see something more unsettling. They’re still married. Still showing up. Still, technically, committed. But the relationship itself has changed shape. If you’re reading this out of curiosity, keep going. If you’re reading this because som...