The Memory Gap: Why One Partner Remembers the Facts and the Other Remembers What It Felt Like (opens in new tab)

"I know you called." The room became quiet. Not angry quiet. Not contemptuous quiet. The other kind. The kind that arrives when two life partners suddenly realize they have been discussing different marriages. He was talking about behavior. She was talking about experience. He was explaining that he had called every day while traveling for work. She was explaining that she had never felt more alone. Neither statement contradicted the other. Yet both felt misunderstood.