Most Affairs Begin With Attention Migration: Why Infidelity Feels Like a Nervous-System Crisis (opens in new tab)

Most people think they know exactly what they would do after infidelity. This is adorable. Americans speak about cheating with the confidence of people discussing a house fire they are certain will only happen to someone else. “I would leave immediately.” Of course you would. During emergencies you would also remain calm, administer CPR flawlessly, and somehow locate your passport in under three minutes. Human beings possess an almost spiritual faith in their future emotional competence. Then...