The Missing “We”: What Psychopathy Reveals About Identity, Relationships, and Belonging (opens in new tab)

Ask a grandmother who she is. She may tell you about her grandchildren. Ask a devoted husband who he is. He may tell you about his wife. Ask a teacher who she is. She may tell you about her students. Ask a firefighter who he is. He may tell you about his crew. Notice something strange. The deepest answers to the question Who are you? often contain other people. We tend to think of identity as something private, something discovered by looking inward. Modern culture encourages us to find ourse...