Relational Gravity: Why Modern Love Feels So Intelligent—and So Unstable (opens in new tab)

We have insight everywhere now. We can name our attachment style before coffee. We can narrate our childhood before lunch. We can explain our partner’s patterns with the calm authority of someone who has read three books and now regrets it only slightly. We understand intimacy—conceptually—better than any generation before us. And yet our relationships feel thinner. More provisional. Strangely unable to withstand an ordinary Tuesday. If you’re reading this out of curiosity, keep going. If you...