Your Relationship May Not Have a Sex Problem. It May Have an Attention Problem. (opens in new tab)

There is a peculiar modern fantasy that desire should function like Bluetooth. Automatic pairing. Seamless syncing. Effortless continuity across decades, mortgages, children, orthopedic pillows, tax filings, streaming passwords, and one increasingly alarming shared grocery list. You meet someone. You fall in love. You merge lives. You begin arguing about oat milk inventory with the emotional intensity once reserved for maritime border disputes. And somehow erotic fascination is expected to re...