Why Smart Couples Keep Misdiagnosing Their Relationship Problems (opens in new tab)

One partner says: "We've been disconnected for years." The other replies: "What are you talking about? Things were fine until last month." Neither is lying. They are simply reading different weather reports. There is a peculiar modern belief that if two reasonably evolved adults simply communicate clearly enough, intimacy will sort itself out. Use "I" statements. Reflect what you hear. Validate feelings. Schedule check-ins. Buy the card deck game. Listen to the podcast. Learn each other's lov...