Let’s start from the basics: can you introduce yourself?

I’m Alice, I’m currently 37, I’m from the East Midlands in the UK, and have lived in the region all my life. I live with my husband (whom I married in June) and our two cats. They are the best cats.

At university, I studied English Literature because I never had any idea what I wanted to do for a career! I really enjoyed my time at university. Looking back, it was such a luxury to have all the time dedicated to reading books and thinking deeply about them (even if I was always too shy to contribute much in seminars!). I can’t say an English Lit. degree has ever been beneficial in a practical sense, but I’m happy that I’ve started to dust off some of the cobwebs on it with my book blog!

My work and my blog are separate, but I think the fact that it exists at all is a result of the way my career went, or rather didn’t go! I got a Master’s degree in Information and Library Management, but failed to ever get a proper professional job.

Plan A was University Librarian, but I didn’t get the graduate trainee placement I needed, and, with that, I was forever locked out of university libraries. I never saw a job posting that didn’t require “at least 5 years of experience in an equivalent role”, and social anxiety hampered the development of networking skills. I was a library assistant at a university for a while, where a good portion of my colleagues were in the same boat as me!

Plan B was a School Librarian, purely because it was the only job I got offered. I was ill-suited to it, never really enjoyed and the school I was in had little interest in supporting the Library or developing a reading culture. I did that for about 4 years, the whole time trying to come up with an alternative plan.

Eventually, Plan C presented itself, and I ended up in a little niche of library management systems, where I worked on data migrations for special libraries, and eventually moved into archives and museums. This is a job that really suits me. It turns out my true love all along was actually databases, information retrieval and the challenge of solving all the puzzles that involved!

If I could go back in time to 18-21 years old, knowing myself as I do now, I would make different decisions! But, for now, I am happy where I ended up, and I’m still making a little contribution to the cultural sector!

What’s the story behind your blog?

The Wallflower Digest was born in 2022 because my previous job had stopped offering me stimulating challenges, and I was feeling overlooked, bored and trapped by a lack of opportunities! My self-esteem was taking a real hit, and I just needed something to give me a goal and focus.

I have had blogs in the past when bored at work! My library assistant job in my twenties was in a tiny, quiet campus library that involved some lone working evening shifts where there would be nothing to do but sit on the enquiries desk for hours! That was how my first blog started; it was mostly a TV blog called Between Screens. That was hosted by WordPress.com (I did have custom domains, though!) and is now long deleted. I used to write recaps and reviews of my favourite TV shows, movies and video games. This was mostly Made in Chelsea, Game of Thrones, Veronica Mars and Mass Effect! I also played around briefly with a fiction blog and a sewing blog, but those were short-lived.

This time around, I wanted my blog to be somewhere to exercise my writing skills and have a chance to play around with CSS and maybe other website bits if I wanted.

When I picked the name, I wasn’t sure what the blog was going to be, but I think I managed to nail it. I wanted something that felt like me. I’ve always been very shy, but I was painfully so as a child, and someone (probably a teacher) referred to me as a ‘wallflower’, and that term got stuck in my young brain.

I don’t know if the meaning will translate for those who aren’t native English speakers, so as a definition, a “wallflower” can mean someone with an introverted personality type (or social anxiety) who will usually distance themselves from the crowd and actively avoid being in the limelight.

Plus, I like flowers! I recently planted some wallflowers (Erysimum) in my garden!

And then a ‘digest’ is a compilation or summary of information, and my blog is a mess of different topics. I share as I digest the things I read, learn and experience in my life.

When I got started, I spun my wheels for a bit in the mud of terrible advice for new bloggers. You know, this strange idea that a blog has to make money, and therefore has to solve problems for an audience! This is why some of my oldest posts have a recognisable Content formatting of SEO friendly headings and keywords! But I eventually realised the fun and mental stimulation I needed came from just doing whatever I wanted, and that an Audience wasn’t important to me (actually, I fear that!)! And, more importantly, the blogs I was finding that I enjoyed the most were messy little personal blogs where people shared snippets of their lives.

These days, I remind myself that I can do what I want. I see it now as a loosely defined project to help me distil the things that resonate, and help me to understand myself a little better. I share whatever I want to, which currently is book reviews, updates on my life, occasionally progress with my garden (though I’ve been too busy this year!), and my embroidery or other craft projects.

Lately - trying to be less of a wallflower - I’ve been taking part in more blogging community linkups and tag memes, which have been a lot of fun to answer prompts, but also for “blog hopping” and seeing who else is out there! I’m hoping to branch out from the book-based ones to other topics and blog hop beyond the borders of the book community, or the more tech-focused folks I found on Mastodon. I am toying with the idea of creating my own if I can’t find an existing one that feels right!

What does your creative process look like when it comes to blogging?

Life has been very busy recently, so the blog has really been ticking over on book reviews and joining in with the book blogger community’s Top Ten Tuesday weekly link-up (currently hosted by ArtsyReaderGirl). It’s hard to find the time for more “creative” posts at the moment, but I do try to put really effort into my TTT and try to find something to say about the books I choose to list.

Sometimes I get struck by inspiration - usually a topic that keeps recurring in my life somehow - and I’ll start a draft, or just jot some thoughts into a note and eventually find the time to work it into something that makes sense! That is the biggest challenge when I work 40 hours a week and have to do all the other responsibilities of life, relationships and health things that come with being an adult.

I mean, I’ve been trying to find the time and mental bandwidth to write a full review with my analysis of the book Rouge by Mona Awad since January (I loved it, and I’m still thinking about it)! But it’s still in drafts, and I think I need to read it a third time now. It’s like a running joke that I’ll forever talk about it and never get it posted!

I also post life updates semi-regularly. Those posts are just a catch-up on whatever is going on - how my walking/move more challenges are going, TV or movies, anything else I feel like! I love to read that kind of ‘slice of life’ content from other people.

Now and again, I’ll share something about my social anxiety struggles. I’m always battling this, and I find writing out my experiences and feelings helps to work it out of my system.

As for the process, my drafts usually get entered straight into the Jetpack app on my phone. I used Obsidian as my digital notes app for general thoughts and inspiration, and all my book reviews and ebook highlights get synced into there, too. What I’ve got going on with Obsidian is its own little project (essentially as my own personal database!). Most of the time, I post whenever I’ve finished writing because time is too short to proofread, and that’s why my blog is full of typos and errors! I do re-read things later on and correct mistakes I spot, but that’s as far as it goes!

I also love to use Canva to create graphics. Every book review gets a little graphic with a summary; those originated in my short-lived attempt to get involved with Bookstagram, and I enjoyed making them so much that I’ve kept them for the blog. I am also a visual person, so it is important to me that I like the look of my website!

Do you have an ideal creative environment? Also do you believe the physical space influences your creativity?

I think my creativity relies more on my mental state than my physical space! Definitely, my menstrual cycle comes with days where I’m buzzing with ideas and writing is easier, and I wake up with ideas first thing in the morning before the responsibilities of the day have taken over.

I do need quite though. I can’t think with background chatter, I have no idea how people manage to work in noisy cafes! They make me instantly tired, and my brain shuts down.

Writing is easiest when I am on my PC with a full keyboard and dual monitors, but because I work from home full-time at the same desk, I don’t like to be pinned in the same spot in my evenings, shut away from my husband, so PC time only really happens on the weekend. More often, I write on my phone; I also have an iPad, but if I’m typing on mobile, I’m faster on my phone.

A question for the techie readers: can you run us through your tech stack?

I am hosted by Hostingr, which has been fine and easy to use for a non-techie like me. My CMS is WordPress, it came installed and I find it familiar and easy to use with a big community. I find there is usually a plugin to solve most problems!

I have no problem with the block editor, and I love that I can hook my blog up to the wider WordPress.com world to more easily connect with other bloggers. I use the Jetpack app for quick editing and posting, as well as my RSS feed, and to explore and discover new blogs through tags. I honestly think Jetpack gets underrated as a discovery tool!

Given your experience, if you were to start a blog today, would you do anything differently?

I don’t think I would change anything about my blog. With hindsight, I do wish I’d wasted less time down the SEO rabbit hole and removed the pre-installed AISEO plugin earlier! I could also have figured out how I connect my blog to WordPress/Jetpack sooner to find other bloggers.

I would not have made my thoughts on Atomic Habits so SEO friendly... it got caught in Google’s net and now I regret how well it does search results. There is a crowd of James Clear fans who get upset when you don’t praise it as the life-changing work of a genius they hold it up to be. Every few months, I get something that makes me consider turning off the comments.

Financial question since the Web is obsessed with money: how much does it cost to run your blog? Is it just a cost, or does it generate some revenue? And what’s your position on people monetising personal blogs?

I got a New Year deal with Hostingr for 4 years of hosting at a ridiculous discount, so I paid that all upfront, and I think it worked out about £3 a month. I’m going to have to work out what to do when that’s up for renewal! I think my domain is £8.99 a year.

That is all the cost; I don’t make any money from my blog, nor do I plan to. This is just a hobby, and hobbies (just like my embroidery and gardening) often cost money! Monetising would immediately make it stressful for me and take the fun out of it.

I don’t mind if other people want to monestise as long as it’s not obnoxious. I don’t like newsletters where they put some things behind a paywall but not everything, or they put half of it behind the paywall. Those are annoying when they come through my RSS feed, and usually I end up unsubscribing.

I’ve occasionally done a “buy me a coffee” kind of one-off donation to bloggers, or the pay-what-you-like subscription model, where I can just do a couple of quid a month to show support. Or if they’re an artist and they have a shop, I buy something small if the postage to the UK is reasonable.

Time for some recommendations: any blog you think is worth checking out? And also, who do you think I should be interviewing next?

My favourite blogs are the ones where I can feel the person writing it, and their personality and passions come through. I want to read human thoughts, not Content! I like details about people’s lives with the things they love (books, TV shows, comics, flowers, whatever!), or might share that they’re having a hard time with something and how they’re coping.

Michael at My Comic Relief writes wonderful, passionate and compassionate posts about his favourite TV shows, movies and comic books. When Doctor Who and The Acolyte were on, I was watching my RSS feed for these thoughts every week! I always find his perspective interesting and his enthusiasm infectious.

Dragon Rambles is a mix of personal posts and book reviews written by Nic in New Zealand. I think she’s been blogging for many years. I really love it when she shares new books she finds for her collection of retro science fiction and fantasy! I have no interest in ever reading any of them myself, but I love to read about them and her collection!

I also enjoy reading Elizabeth Tai. She is based in Malaysia and was one of the first bloggers I found on Mastodon in my super early days, and it was through her that I learned popular Indie Web concepts like digital gardens and POSSE. I enjoy the fact that she writes about all kinds of things! I am actually surprised she’s not been featured yet!

I think Michael, Nic or Liz would be great to interview. Michael and Nic, I found in the land of WordPress, and may not even be aware of this project!

My other 3 favourites you’ve already featured, but I’ll mention them because I think they’re great!

Veronique has been a favourite for a long time! Her writing always feels intimate, and I love the little snippet she shares from her life, her artwork and her passion for zines. She also mentioned my blog in her interview, and I can’t tell you how thrilled I was! I had to try to explain the whole thing to my husband, who does not read blogs!

Winnie Lim is another long-time favourite of mine. Her blog is also very intimate and thoughtful, and I am always eager to read about her life and little adventures.

And also Tracy Durnell’s Mind Garden is like what I think I’d like my blog to be, if I had the time and inclination to properly organise myself! I know she’s also had a P&B feature because that’s how I found her. I love her weekly notes. I don’t know why I enjoy reading what music she listened to and what meals she had that week, but I do!

This one is a silly one, and maybe a bit of a blast from the past because I used to follow Cake Wrecks way back in the day (like 15 years ago!), and when I was collecting RSS feeds of blogs again a couple of years ago, I was so happy it was still around! Unlike Regresty, RIP (and RIP to what Esty used to be!). Anyway, there is something about badly decorated cakes that I find deeply hilarious (and bad art in general), and these collections of wonky cakes made by so-called professional bakers are a regular source of joy.

Final question: Is there anything you want to share with us?

I don’t have anything in particular to share. I am just so excited to have been asked to take part!

I hope everyone keeps on doing what they love and blogging about it in the way that they want! I am thankful to have found that the ‘blogosphere’ is still alive and well, and for me, it’s such a peaceful refuge away from the overwhelming noise of social media.

I am also hugely appreciative of projects like this that make it easier for bloggers to find each other, so thank you, Manu!