- 10 Nov, 2025 *
A good relationship is one where equality isn’t the goal. Instead, each person strives to elevate the other in ways that create genuine value, rather than keeping score of mistakes. In an age where people are commoditized—swiped right or left like products, requiring premium subscriptions for more “variety”—is it any surprise that relationships have become consumerist items, like chewing gum to be discarded once the flavor fades?
A healthy relationship can only be built on shared virtue and morals. It endures when both partners maintain a strong ethical code, or when neither does. They are either both flawed, like Joker and Harley Quinn, or both beautifully virtuous, like Rama and Sita. Another essential aspect of a healthy relationship is hierarchy—not rigid, but p…
- 10 Nov, 2025 *
A good relationship is one where equality isn’t the goal. Instead, each person strives to elevate the other in ways that create genuine value, rather than keeping score of mistakes. In an age where people are commoditized—swiped right or left like products, requiring premium subscriptions for more “variety”—is it any surprise that relationships have become consumerist items, like chewing gum to be discarded once the flavor fades?
A healthy relationship can only be built on shared virtue and morals. It endures when both partners maintain a strong ethical code, or when neither does. They are either both flawed, like Joker and Harley Quinn, or both beautifully virtuous, like Rama and Sita. Another essential aspect of a healthy relationship is hierarchy—not rigid, but present nonetheless.
A man holds a form of superiority through his benevolence: providing, protecting, and safeguarding his family against calamity. A woman holds her own superiority as the bearer of future generations and the feminine energy that enables her partner’s ambitions to flourish. I consider both superior, though their strengths differ according to context.
Men are better suited to handle external challenges—the larger forces in life. Women are better equipped for internal challenges—the subtler, more intimate aspects. She cannot excel at her role if he fails at his, and no matter how capable a man is, his efforts are wasted if his partner cannot bring her energy to building their shared life.
The modern world has undermined this dynamic, forcing couples to choose between building a home together or merely surviving through corporate servitude. The financial state of most countries has deteriorated to the point where middle-class citizens can barely afford housing, let alone children and quality education. These conditions have made the ideal relationship nearly impossible for most people.
Yet when I consider what a perfect relationship looks like, I return to this conclusion: men and women are designed differently for a reason. Men cannot afford to be overly emotional when they must face the world’s harsher realities. Women need not be perpetually rational because their strengths lie elsewhere.
Emotions can only flourish when survival isn’t threatened. Poetry isn’t written in wartime. Men must fight the battles so that women can become the beautiful poetry of their lives.