- 07 Nov, 2025 *
An organization I used to work with, one that I’m still a member of but am not engaged in, pissed me off today.
I asked: Hey, can you use [this email] instead of [my gmail], please? (for sending meeting agendas and stuff) Them: Refused because they think [this email] is a “professional email” and they will only communicate with memebers’ “personal emails”
What the fuck is that shit? That’s so fucking dumb. And also, just because I own a domain name/website and use that domain for my email does NOT mean it’s a professional address. It is still a personal email address. And I don’t check my google. I only have a gmail for docs and stuff.
I have other past beef with this organization (and in particular, the current leader of the org).
I think they wa…
- 07 Nov, 2025 *
An organization I used to work with, one that I’m still a member of but am not engaged in, pissed me off today.
I asked: Hey, can you use [this email] instead of [my gmail], please? (for sending meeting agendas and stuff) Them: Refused because they think [this email] is a “professional email” and they will only communicate with memebers’ “personal emails”
What the fuck is that shit? That’s so fucking dumb. And also, just because I own a domain name/website and use that domain for my email does NOT mean it’s a professional address. It is still a personal email address. And I don’t check my google. I only have a gmail for docs and stuff.
I have other past beef with this organization (and in particular, the current leader of the org).
I think they want to push me out of the org and so they’re being disrespectful (it’s not the first time I’ve been badly treated by the leader OR the org).
Some of my past beef is decisions of theirs I strongly disagree with - excluding poor people from membership, reducing transparency and making it harder for members to hold them accountable, some other more minor things.
I’ve wanted to raise a fuss about this shit for awhile. I did confront them about it at a meeting a few months ago. Wrote them a letter. Wanted to go to the news.
But if I go to the news ... it won’t help the community they (we) serve. If anything, it will reduce sponsorship dollars and alienate community members and potential volunteers. So ONCE AGAIN, I’m gonna eat my anger.
This shit isn’t about me (though, I do believe the leader’s main motivation is ego bullshit and not service). Either way, the leader does labor and probably has been good for the organization. But I don’t trust them. And I don’t like them.
But it isn’t about me. And my anger has simmered. So I’m probably not gonna do shit. I’m probably going to remain a member. When my mental health is better, I do plan to work with the org again. But I might not because the horrible toxicity I’ve experienced.
Fuck though. The email thing is such stupid bullshit. Also their website is terrible and needs work. If I re-engage, that’s the main thing I’d want to work on - the website and also showing up to meetings to advocate for shit. When I was involved in the past, I would end up taking on WAY too much labor and it was awful for me.